Good morning, brothers and sisters. In a recent priesthood quorum meeting in my home ward, the instructor began the lesson with a personal experience he had while serving as a bishop of a BYU ward. A young woman in his ward shared with him a concern that she was not achieving her academic goals because she had to get up so early each morning in order to work. Her parents had both been killed by a drunken driver who had ignored a stop sign. Like many of you students here at BYU, this young woman was working, going to classes, and developing her personal financial independence. The discussion in our high priests group that followed this introductory story focused on why we have challenges in our lives. Are these challenges because of transgression? Are they simply random activities that occur in everyone\u2019s life? Are challenges and their consequences created by the choices that we make each day? Elder Bruce R. McConkie said the following about life\u2019s challenges:<\/p>\n
Though Satan may rejoice in the afflictions\u2014whether physical, mental, or spiritual\u2014which befall mortal men, it is not to be assumed that he has power to impose them, except in isolated instances where people have complied with laws which permit such an imposition; otherwise, Satan would shackle all men with ills so drastic as to destroy them.<\/i> [Bruce R. McConkie, Doctrinal New Testament Commentary<\/i> (Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1965), 1:493]<\/p>\n
In his great discourse in about 124 B.C., King Benjamin instructed us to put<\/p>\n
off the natural man and<\/i> [become] a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and<\/i> [become] as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon<\/i> [us], even as a child doth submit to his father.<\/i> [Mosiah 3:19<\/a>]<\/p>\n Father Lehi some 400 years earlier taught Jacob, his first-born son in the wilderness:<\/p>\n For it must needs be, that there is an opposition in all things. If not so, my first-born in the wilderness, righteousness could not be brought to pass, neither wickedness, neither holiness, nor misery, neither good nor bad. Wherefore, all things must needs be a compound in one.<\/i> [2 Nephi 2:11<\/a>]<\/p>\n Bruce and Marie Hafen have suggested the following:<\/p>\n Opposition is a central part of mortal life. It may be the primary difference between what life would have been in the Garden and what it is in mortality. It is the difference between being green, untested, and inexperienced and becoming ripe, seasoned, tested, and having a mature understanding. How different from innocence, for if there is only innocence, there is little meaning.<\/i><\/p>\n . . . Mortality presents us with a \u201ccompound in one,\u201d a deliberate mixing of righteousness and temptation, holiness and misery, without which there could be \u201cno purpose in the end of [life\u2019s] creation.\u201d (2 Ne. 2:11\u201312<\/a>.)<\/i> [Bruce C. and Marie Hafen, \u201cOpposition, Joy, and the Nice Life,\u201d Ensign,<\/i> December 1992, p. 12]<\/p>\n Continuing on this same theme, Bishop Glenn Pace said:<\/p>\n Sometimes in the midst of trials we cry out, \u201cWhat have I done wrong to deserve this?\u201d Often, tribulation comes into our lives not because we are doing something wrong but because of what we are doing right.<\/i> [Glenn L. Pace, \u201cCrying with the Saints,\u201d Ensign,<\/i> September 1988, p. 70]<\/p>\n President Merrill J. Bateman taught us that \u201copposition, disappointments, pain, suffering, and death are necessary to protect agency and provide for spiritual development\u201d (Merrill J. Bateman, \u201cLiving a Christ-Centered Life,\u201d Ensign,<\/i> January 1999, p. 13). In Psalm 34:19 we are told, \u201cMany are the afflictions of the righteous.\u201d And finally, the Prophet Joseph Smith was comforted by the Lord in the jail at Liberty with these words: \u201cMy son, peace be unto thy soul; thine adversity and thine afflictions shall be but a small moment\u201d (D&C 121:7<\/a>). The Lord added, \u201cKnow thou, my son, that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good\u201d (D&C 122:7<\/a>).<\/p>\n So although the lesson that Sunday morning in my priesthood quorum had started with a discussion about why<\/i> we experience challenges, it concluded with the belief that it is more important to know how<\/i> we should react to these challenges. Again, in the words of Bishop Pace:<\/p>\n Latter-day Saints don\u2019t seek the unpleasant things of life. We don\u2019t look for pain and suffering. However, we<\/i> [should] recognize that trials and tribulations come to all of us and they can be turned into spiritual stepping-stones to sanctification and exaltation.<\/i> [Pace, \u201cCrying,\u201d p. 72]<\/p>\n As a faculty member in the Marriott School, I teach a managerial economics course in the Romney Institute of Public Management. In this economics course we deal with the importance of making a decision\u2014a choice\u2014on how to best allocate limited resources to produce goods and services to satisfy unlimited wants. We all possess the very significant opportunity to make individual choices in our life as they pertain to economic decisions, employment decisions, personal family decisions, and those decisions that affect us in our spiritual development. The old saying we have all heard is, \u201cIs your cup half full or half empty? Are you sad that there are thorns on rosebushes or happy that there are roses on thornbushes?\u201d The question is one of vision, direction, focus, or choice. Another way of talking about vision, direction, focus, or choice comes from my favorite cartoon strip, Calvin and Hobbes.<\/i><\/p>\n Calvin and Hobbes, his playful toy tiger, are walking and talking.<\/p>\n \u201c\u2018Live for the moment\u2019 is my<\/i> motto,\u201d says Calvin. \u201cYou never know how long you\u2019ve got! You could step into the road tomorrow and\u2014wham\u2014<\/i>you get hit by a cement truck! Then you\u2019d be sorry you put off your pleasures! That\u2019s why I say \u2018Live for the moment.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n Then Calvin asks Hobbes, \u201cWhat\u2019s your<\/i> motto?\u201d<\/p>\n And Hobbes answers, \u201cLook down the road.\u201d (In Bill Watterson, Attack of the Deranged Mutant Killer Monster Snow Goons<\/i> [Kansas City, Missouri: Andrews and McMeel Publishers, 1992], p. 66; emphasis in original.)<\/p>\n When we are faced with a challenge in our life, we, too, should \u201clook down the road.\u201d An optimist will see the cup as half full, and a pessimist will see it as half empty. Here is how some of my business faculty colleagues see the cup. An entrepreneur sees that the cup is waiting to be filled. For a consultant, the problem would be that you have too much cup. A finance professor would reason that we must first establish that there is a positive net present value in the cup filling before proceeding. An accounting professor would insist that if the cup is a fixed cost and the water a variable cost, then the unused capacity should be considered a sipping expense. A human resources professor would argue that management should assign a team to the project to assess the work flow of the water in the cup. An information systems professor would inform us that through the efficient use of technology we will be more productive in filling the cup. Finally, the marketing group would advise that if we position the cup properly, we could probably sell it to both the optimist and the pessimist.<\/p>\n When my wife, who is a first-grade teacher, read my talk, she said, \u201cIf you were to ask a first grader this question, they would ask, \u201cWhat is the flavor of the drink in the cup?\u201d Maybe they have the right idea.<\/p>\n So how are we looking at our cup? How do we react to our life\u2019s challenges? I once heard a parable about a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer\u2019s well. The farmer heard the mule braying and, after a careful assessment of the situation, decided that neither the well nor the mule were worth saving. He enlisted his neighbors to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery. Initially the old mule was hysterical. But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, he would shake it off and step up. This he did, blow after blow: shake off the dirt and step up, shake it off and step up, shake it off and step up. It wasn\u2019t long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, stepped over the wall and out of the well. If we face our challenges and problems in the same way and respond to them in a positive way, we, too, can realize the benefit of our choice to see the cup as half full.<\/p>\n I would like to share with you this morning a true story from the life of a young woman. I share it not to make you feel bad or to scare you but to help us realize that some people can go though terrible trials in today\u2019s world. By perceiving that the cup is half full rather than half empty, we can survive and keep the important things in our life in perspective. This young woman grew up in North Hollywood, California\u2014not Beverly Hills, but Hollywood, in a ghetto area. Her parents were not married when she was born. Her parents were alcoholics, and each year they were together, they drank more and more. After her parents had two more babies, another daughter and a son, they finally did get married. Although they loved each other, the parents abused one another verbally and physically.<\/p>\n Life at school was not much better for their daughter. It was hard to be popular because she didn\u2019t have nice things to wear and ate free school lunches. Gangs were prevalent, and, more than once, others threatened her life with knives. Many of her childhood friends had already made bad choices related to drugs and drinking and had ended up in juvenile detention centers. During this time of trial, she decided that she was going to be different. She did not want this kind of life forever. She began to have a determination, a goal, a focus, a conscious decision to make a better life for herself.<\/p>\n Her mother passed away when she was 13, leaving her to care for her younger brother and sister and their alcoholic father. One night two years later, she took her younger sister to their bedroom to sleep since her father and his friend were drinking excessively. Now let me read from her own words:<\/p>\n I awoke the next morning to find my brother face down on the front-room floor and my father on the back porch. During the night this man had murdered my father and my brother over a meaningless argument. I trembled as the man began to tell me of the most horrifying thing I have ever heard. He told me that if I didn\u2019t do exactly what he said that he would not hesitate in shooting me also. I prayed continually to the Lord, knowing in my heart that there was a God to help me<\/i>. Even though I did not belong to any church at that time, I had the faith and the courage from my prayers to not give up.<\/i><\/p>\n This man kidnapped us and drove around all day trying to find some money so he could get out of the country. I suggested that we go to my aunt and uncle\u2019s house so he could use their telephone. While he was occupied on the telephone, my sister and I were able to go out the back door and run down the block to another home, where we called the police.<\/i><\/p>\n After this terrible ordeal my sister and I went to live with our aunt and uncle. Growing up I remember some of the exposure that I had to the Mormon Church. Many of my friends would talk about going to seminary, but I didn\u2019t really understand it, although I listened a great deal to what they had to say. I entered high school and found a friend who became very close to me. She was a member of the LDS Church. I proceeded into my school year with an attitude to make myself the best I could be and to succeed in my schoolwork and to obtain good grades.<\/i><\/p>\n During the summer I started going to Church dances with my LDS friend. At one of these Church dances a young man there introduced me to the Church, and I started having the missionary lessons. I was scared and a little hesitant, but I knew that there was a God, and after reading the Book of Mormon I received a witness of its truthfulness. I was baptized six weeks later. The Book of Mormon gave me great strength when I had to testify against the man who had committed this terrible crime against my family.<\/i> [Personal journal, name withheld]<\/p>\n The struggle in the life of this young woman has a happy ending because of her determination to see life\u2019s challenges as springboards for positive change. The challenges helped her to focus, to seek for direction in her life, and to make choices that have created greater spiritual awareness and happiness.<\/p>\n I would like now to share three thoughts with you this morning in terms of what we might do \u201cwhen upon life\u2019s billows [we] are tempest tossed\u201d (\u201cCount Your Blessings,\u201d Hymns,<\/i> 1985, no. 241).<\/p>\n First, it is important for us to \u201cabide in the ship.\u201d In Acts 27, the Apostle Paul was en route to Rome when the cargo ship he was on met a violent storm. Buffeted by winds, it was driven off course, and the seafarers feared for their lives. After 14 days of tossing at sea, they finally neared land. At that point, in reading Paul\u2019s advice to the men on board, we are provided with an insight into how we might learn to deal with the challenges that come into our lives. In verse 31, after several of the men had contrived to escape by stealing the lifeboat, Paul gave us his practical advice as stated to the centurion and to the soldiers on board the boat: \u201cExcept these abide in the ship, ye cannot be saved\u201d (Acts 27:31<\/a>).<\/p>\n Abide in the ship. Stay the course. Stay with what we believe to be important and true. Don\u2019t allow the winds, the hardships, the difficult people, or the buffetings of life to deter you from your spiritual objectives. Remember that we are children of our Heavenly Father. He loves us. He is kind, gentle, and loving. Remember that our family gives us purposeful living. Accept that life may not always be fair.<\/p>\n When we have these challenges in our lives, this is the time to abide by the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ. This is the time to continue our prayers, to continue to attend our church meetings, to search the scriptures, to go to the temple, and to trust in the Lord. How often do we read our patriarchal blessings to help us abide in the ship? The gospel was restored for us. The Lord will answer our prayers. He is mindful of us, for we are his sons and daughters.<\/p>\n Second, it is important for us to seek counsel and comfort. When we are burdened by a difficult challenge, it is a good time to seek counsel and comfort from those who know and love us the most. Certainly at those times of discouragement we can turn to our ecclesiastical leaders, to priesthood brethren, and to our professors for guidance, comfort, and direction. But this is also a wonderful opportunity to turn to our parents, our grandparents, and our extended family for vision, for focus, and for direction in our choices. There are dangers in the world that our parents may have experienced or situations that we might be able to handle better with their counsel and direction. Their counsel and comfort will aid us through our decision-making process. They can help us whenever we are riding out the storms in our life. I will share with you another story, that of Melanie and how she was assisted by her family during a storm.<\/p>\n Melanie stared straight ahead. The storm was getting worse. She watched the windshield wipers go back and forth. \u201cPoor Grandpa,\u201d thought the girl. \u201cHe looks worried. He hates driving in this kind of weather.\u201d Melanie was worried, too. She\u2019d never been out in a storm this bad. She closed her eyes and tried to forget it. But just then she was thrown forward. The car jerked to a halt.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cGrandpa, are you all right?\u201d she cried.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cNo, Melanie,\u201d he said in a weak voice. \u201cWe need help. I think I\u2019m very sick.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n The girl looked at her grandfather. His face was very pale. She could tell he was in pain.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cGrandpa, what is it?\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n The old man said slowly, \u201cMy chest aches something awful. I need a doctor. Please, child, open my collar.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n Melanie leaned over and unbuttoned her grandfather\u2019s shirt. Tears ran down her face.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cNo time for crying,\u201d he said softly. \u201cToo much to do. I got us to the side of the road. I can\u2019t go any further. You\u2019ve got to drive the car.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cBut I don\u2019t know how!\u201d cried the girl.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cI know,\u201d said her grandfather. \u201cI\u2019ll tell you exactly what to do. We\u2019ll take it step by step.\u201d<\/i> [The scriptures call it \u201cline upon line\u201d (Isaiah 28:10).]<\/p>\n Melanie thought of all the times she had dreamed about driving. She\u2019d always thought it would be easy and fun. But not now. Melanie helped her grandfather move to the right side. Then she climbed over him and in behind the steering wheel.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cOpen your window. You\u2019ll have to fix the side-view mirror. Check the rearview mirror. Okay, now start the car. Now put your left foot on the brake, hold it down, and shift into drive. You are doing fine. Put your foot on the gas pedal very gently, and don\u2019t worry,\u201d he added. \u201cWe\u2019ll be fine.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n Grandpa leaned over toward the steering wheel and pushed a button under it and then fell back into his seat. Melanie took her foot off the brake and pressed down on the gas pedal. The car started forward. She held onto the wheel and steered as best she could.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cWhy are those lights flashing on the dashboard?\u201d she wondered. \u201cIs something wrong with the engine?\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n There was so much to remember, so much to figure out. She brushed the tears out of her eyes. Melanie could see a car coming down the road. It was headed straight for her. Just in time the other car veered out of the way and stopped.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cIs everything okay?\u201d yelled the other driver.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cNo!\u201d Melanie shouted as she rolled the window down. Melanie did as the men told her and brought the car to a halt as the other car pulled up behind her. Within half an hour, Melanie, her grandpa, and the man who had helped them were at the emergency room of the hospital.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cHow did you know something was wrong when you saw our car?\u201d questioned Melanie.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cI saw your lights flashing,\u201d he replied.<\/i><\/p>\n \u201cBut how did they go on?\u201d asked Melanie.<\/i><\/p>\n The man replied, \u201cMost cars have a button under the steering wheel for the flasher lights. Maybe you hit it by mistake.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n Melanie smiled, \u201cNo, I didn\u2019t, but I know who turned them on.<\/i> [Author unknown]<\/p>\n We enjoy knowing that we have a living prophet, bishops, priesthood quorum leaders, parents, other family members, and friends who are there to turn on the warning \u201cflashers\u201d for us during times of challenge and difficulty. They are there to provide comfort and counsel.<\/p>\n In addition to abiding in the ship and seeking for comfort and counsel, the third and most sustaining influence of all during life\u2019s difficult challenges is to embrace the love and atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ. In John 3:25\u201336, John the Baptist preached one of the greatest sermons ever delivered on the divinity of Jesus Christ and the obligation that we have to accept him as the Son of God. And the story of the Samaritan woman at the well in John 4 teaches that the peace of the gospel is the \u201cliving water\u201d that he offers to all men. Following his long journey from Judea, the Lord was physically tired, hungry, and thirsty and yet took the opportunity to teach the simple truths of the gospel.<\/p>\n Now Jacob\u2019s well was there. Jesus therefore, being wearied with his journey, sat thus on the well: and it was about the sixth hour.<\/i><\/p>\n There cometh a woman of Samaria to draw water: Jesus saith unto her, Give me to drink. . . .<\/i><\/p>\n Then saith the woman of Samaria unto him, How is it that thou, being a Jew, askest drink of me, which am a woman of Samaria? for the Jews have no dealings with the Samaritans.<\/i><\/p>\n Jesus answered and said unto her, If thou knewest the gift of God, and who it is that saith to thee, Give me to drink; thou wouldest have asked of him, and he would have given thee living water.<\/i><\/p>\n The woman saith unto him, Sir, thou hast nothing to draw with, and the well is deep: from whence then hast thou that living water?<\/i><\/p>\n Art thou greater than our father Jacob, which gave us the well, and drank thereof himself, and his children, and his cattle?<\/i><\/p>\n Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again:<\/i><\/p>\n But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.<\/i> [John 4:6\u201314]<\/p>\n The Savior then told her to go and get her husband and return.<\/p>\n She said, \u201cI have no husband.\u201d<\/p>\n The Lord reminded her that she had had five husbands.<\/p>\n The woman replied, \u201cI perceive that thou art a prophet.\u201d<\/p>\n Jesus then preached the gospel to her and testified of our Heavenly Father.<\/p>\n The woman replied unto him, \u201cI know that Messias cometh, which is called Christ: when he is come, he will tell us all things.\u201d (See John 4:16\u201325<\/a>.)<\/p>\n