{"id":3628,"date":"1986-09-09T16:55:14","date_gmt":"1986-09-09T22:55:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/speeches.byu.edu\/?p=3628"},"modified":"2024-04-23T09:13:19","modified_gmt":"2024-04-23T15:13:19","slug":"unless-youre-mormon","status":"publish","type":"speech","link":"https:\/\/speeches.byu.edu\/talks\/jeffrey-r-and-patricia-t-holland\/unless-youre-mormon\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cUnless You\u2019re a Mormon\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"
Jeff:<\/b>\u00a0Before we begin today, I want to put down a widespread rumor. Unfortunately, former BYU president Dallin Oaks and I will\u00a0not\u00a0<\/i>be presenting a live rock concert this month. We know how much you want us, and we know that no other university can claim a rock group out of its last two presidents, but I\u2019m sorry. Holland-Oaks (Hall and Oates) cannot work it into their schedules this fall. Please try not to be too disappointed.<\/p>\n
Pat:<\/b>\u00a0If you think having a rock star for a president is strange, you ought to try being married to him!<\/p>\n
Jeff:<\/b>\u00a0For those of you who may be new to BYU, we should explain that time limits are always severe in this welcome back assembly, and most of what we need to say is always beginning-of-the-year business. Sister Holland and I hope you will attend our first devotional next semester when things are more relaxed and we can be a little more parental.<\/p>\n
Pat:<\/b>\u00a0Speaking of parents, I am reminded that we had many parents of our new freshmen at our home last week, and they repeatedly spoke of \u201centrusting you to our care.\u201d They want so much for you to be happy and safe, and we share that hope. We lie awake some evenings talking long into the night about you. We care about you so much. We love you as if you were our own sons and daughters and want you to have a wonderful year.<\/p>\n
Jeff:<\/b>\u00a0Let us begin with a quote and then a story.<\/p>\n
President Reagan recently said in a public address, \u201cA nation\u2019s greatness is measured not just by its gross national product or military power, but by the strength of its devotion to the principles and values that bind its people and define their character\u201d (quoted by William J. Bennett, \u201cCompleting the Reagan Revolution,\u201d\u00a0Vital Speeches of the Day,\u00a0<\/i>August 1, 1986, p. 611). May I repeat that for emphasis here this morning as we start a new school year. I will take the liberty of inserting some university language. \u201cBrigham Young University\u2019s greatness is measured not just by its collective grade point average or its football success, but by the strength of its devotion to the principles and values that bind its people and define their character.\u201d Please hold that in the old cerebral cortex for a minute and we will come back to it. Now the story.<\/p>\n
Pat:<\/b>\u00a0In the summer of 1973, Brother David K. Skidmore received military orders to report for duty in Thailand. Leaving a wife and two small children behind, David hoped to make the year pass as quickly as possible.<\/p>\n
On the evening of his arrival, he was invited to join in a social gathering with his new squadron. He turned down an alcoholic drink for a soda pop and tried to obscure himself in quiet conversation amid the pounding of the music and the layered haze of smoke.<\/p>\n
As he was introduced around, Brother Skidmore eventually ended up standing at the bar with the squadron commander, a colonel. With the officer\u2019s arm around David\u2019s neck he was a captive, listening to tales of airplanes, daring, and past comrades.<\/p>\n
Soon a signal was given and the men gathered around the bar. The music was turned off and it became very quiet. Everyone was served a small drink of very strong alcohol. When the drinks came to Brother Skidmore, he said quietly, trying to be casual, \u201cNo, thank you, I prefer this soft drink.\u201d<\/p>\n
The room went silent. \u201cBut this is a squadron tradition,\u201d the man said.<\/p>\n
Thoughts raced through David\u2019s mind: \u201cWhy me? Why in front of the whole squadron? Why the very first night?\u201d Trying to sound confident, David explained that he did not drink alcohol but would participate with soda pop.<\/p>\n
With that, the silence deepened, and the commander\u2019s arm tightened around his neck and he said, \u201cLieutenant, I\u2019m ordering you to have this drink. You\u2019ll drink it if I have to pour it down you myself.\u201d<\/p>\n
David thought of how far he could get if he tried to fight. He envisioned the results, and an unpleasant visit to the wing commander to change squadrons. Again he asked himself, \u201cWhy me?\u201d But he gathered his courage amidst the waiting silence and said, \u201cI\u2019m sorry, sir, I will not drink alcohol.\u201d<\/p>\n
An electricity filled the air, and David prayed silently with all his heart.<\/p>\n
The colonel leaned back and measured him with his eyes, then replied, \u201cYou\u00a0are\u00a0<\/i>going to drink this .\u00a0.\u00a0.\u201d<\/p>\n
David kept praying.<\/p>\n
Then the colonel added, \u201c.\u00a0.\u00a0. unless you are a Mormon.\u201d<\/p>\n
What relief filled a soldier\u2019s soul! Of course he was a Mormon! He\u2019d always been a Mormon. Why hadn\u2019t he said so earlier? \u201cYes, sir, I\u2019m a Mormon,\u201d he answered.<\/p>\n
The commander quizzed David again to make sure he wasn\u2019t simply taking an easy out. Then he said, \u201cA soft drink for this man, please\u201d (David K. Skidmore, \u201cYes, I\u00a0Am\u00a0<\/i>a Mormon,\u201d\u00a0Ensign,\u00a0<\/i>September 1985, pp. 55\u201356).<\/p>\n
Jeff:<\/b>\u00a0\u201cUnless you are a Mormon<\/a>.\u201d What should that little caveat mean as we begin another school year? What does it say, in President Reagan\u2019s language, of \u201cdevotion to principles and values that bind us together and define our character\u201d? Someone once asked, \u201cIf in a court of law you were accused of being a Latter-day Saint<\/a>, would there be enough evidence to convict you?\u201d<\/p>\n I saw a headline recently that caught my eye. It would have been hard\u00a0not\u00a0<\/i>to catch an eye. It declared across the top of the page, \u201cMoral Rot in America.\u201d The writer\u2019s contention is that over the past 100 years \u201cthere has been a decay in the value[s] of American society, from a moral code that was once [one of the] wonder[s] of the world [into what is now a] black hole of moral relativism\u201d (Allan Carlson, \u201cMoral Rot in America?\u201d\u00a0Persuasion at Work,\u00a0<\/i>vol. 9, no. 6, June 1986, p. l).<\/p>\n Let me quote another writer, Meg Greenfield.<\/p>\n There has been an awful lot of talk about sin, crime and plain old antisocial behavior this summer\u2014drugs and pornography at home, terror and brutality abroad. Maybe it\u2019s just the heat; or maybe these categories of conduct .\u00a0.\u00a0. are really on the rise. What strikes me is our curiously deficient, not to say defective, way of talking about them. We don\u2019t seem to have a word anymore for \u201cwrong\u201d in the moral sense, as in, for example, \u201ctheft is wrong.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n Let me quickly qualify. There is surely no shortage of people condemning other people.\u00a0.\u00a0.\u00a0.<\/i>\u00a0Name-calling is still very much in vogue. But where the concept of wrong is really important\u2014as a guide to one\u2019s own behavior or that of\u00a0<\/i>[determining]\u00a0one\u2019s .\u00a0.\u00a0. side in\u00a0<\/i>[a moral issue]\u2014it is missing. .\u00a0.\u00a0.<\/i><\/p>\n .\u00a0.\u00a0.\u00a0As a guide and a standard to live by, you don\u2019t hear\u00a0<\/i>so\u00a0much about \u201cright and wrong\u201d these days. The very notion is considered .\u00a0.\u00a0. personally embarrassing, since it has such a repressive, Neanderthal ring to it.\u00a0<\/i>[Meg Greenfield, \u201cWhy Nothing is \u2018Wrong\u2019 Anymore,\u201d\u00a0Washington Post,\u00a0<\/i>Tuesday, July 22, 1986, p. A19]<\/p>\n Well, life is better than that at BYU because we expect it to be better and work very hard at making it better. But Somerset Maughan reminded us once, \u201cEvery good and excellent thing in life stands moment-to-moment on the razor\u2019s edge of destruction, and if it is to be preserved it must be defended every hour of your life.\u201d We want for you a \u201cgood and excellent\u201d life at BYU. We are determined to preserve and defend it. We intend\u00a0not\u00a0<\/i>to be \u201cdeficient\u201d or \u201cdefective\u201d in speaking here of right and wrong. We speak, like Brother Skidmore, as members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints\u2014or as nonmember guests of it.<\/p>\n In that spirit we are especially pleased to acknowledge the presidents of our fifteen BYU stakes who join us in welcoming you back to school. They and their vast stake and ward associates help us make this a special place. We honor them in their calling and publicly pay tribute to them today. We are closely linked with them in the work of \u201cstrengthening devotion to the principles and values that bind us as a people and define our character.\u201d Let us touch on just a few reminders as we emphasize what it means to be a Latter-day Saint at BYU in a new school year.<\/p>\n Please understand that with a limit on our enrollment there has been increased academic competition for admission to BYU. Concurrent with that and of equal force with it must always be increased emphasis on worthiness and faith for those who would enjoy the privileges here. Such effort on your part will guarantee that BYU\u2019s greatness will always be more than grade point averages and football successes, pleasant as those are.<\/p>\n Pat:<\/b>\u00a0There is a war being declared on drugs and substance abuse in this country, a war we have always fought at BYU that must be continued. The tragic deaths of gifted young athletes like Len Bias and Don Rogers get our attention because they strike the young, or the rich, or the famous. But far beyond sports figures and rock musicians there is an epidemic of abuse, a Niagara of narcotics taking from us as a nation our ability to control our destiny and guarantee our power.<\/p>\n